We often expect people to treat us with the same respect we extend towards them. We end up feeling hurt and resentful when we are not given the respect and recognition we deserve, or expect from others.
Here is an example: One of my clients, whom I shall call Charlene, is continually disrespected by her staff, and the Director to whom she reports. Charlene is a manager at an office and is a hard and consistent worker. She takes pride in being detail-oriented and is quite thorough with her work. She is very supportive of her staff, yet she is constantly disrespected by both the staff and her Director.
Charlene is at her wits end. She is unable to get her own work done, as she is constantly putting out fires or picking up the slack for others. She feels overworked and overwhelmed with her responsibilities, as well as the ongoing disrespect. She has had several conversations with her Director regarding the staff, as well as her workload. She feels unsupported and on a constant emotional roller coaster. She feels disappointed in herself and everyone around her. What should she do?
Here is an excerpt of my coaching session with Charlene:
People do not change based on our expectations of them. It is a tough situation, however, rather than feeling hurt and disappointed, Charlene needs to change her attitude towards the individuals and the situations. She needs to raise her frequency.
By changing her attitude, Charlene will be able to rise above these challenges. She will be able to place herself in a more strategic position to get her work done, while effectively managing herself and others. Remember, you teach people how to treat you.
Over our next few sessions, I will be working with Charlene to bring about the necessary changes so she can overcome these challenges.
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